Self-esteem is defined as self- assessment, which can be positive or negative. Basically it is a personal opinion regarding oneself. To do this, various factors are taken into account such as mental abilities, bodily features and even spirituality.

It is important to mention that this opinion is emotional, therefore the logical rationalization of this assessment is not always justified.

This assessment may change over time. For example, children begin to form a concept of themselves which during adolescence will change radically. Sometimes, we are influenced by the opinions of other people , we also try to adapt our personality and appearance according to what society dictates.

Concept of self-esteem from psychology 

In psychopedagogy and psychology the concept of self-esteem has great importance, because both disciplines try to help patients with respect to this issue.

It can be understood that self-esteem is a personal assessment, it is the own opinions regarding the personality, physical appearance, abilities , intelligence and other relevant factors, which allow to describe a person.

From the point of view of psychopedagogy, self-esteem is the consequence of constructive attitudes . Therefore, it can be concluded that self-esteem is not a consequence. In this case, a good self-esteem would allow the person to achieve any goal that is set.

Instead, from the perspective of psychology, self-esteem is directly related to self-help . This means that people who have a negative opinion of themselves could not lead a healthy life. If a person does not have confidence or does not believe in himself, it prevents it from being possible to continue with a healthy personal or professional relationship.

However, it is important to mention that self-help sometimes promotes the development of a narcissistic profile, which also negatively affects. Self-esteem is about maintaining a balance, making a realistic analysis regarding the strengths and weaknesses that all people possess equally.

Together, your own perceptions and appraisals build self-esteem. These evaluations are the result of a mental projection , sometimes they do not adjust to what others perceive. Therefore, it is important to note that this description will not always be objective enough. Self-esteem is built from childhood, throughout life it will suffer from certain changes according to the experiences to which it is subjected.

The fickleness of these opinions makes it imperative to try to maintain good self-esteem. Its maintenance depends on different behavioral factors, self-protection, social relationships, affectivity and also productivity. Self-esteem problems develop when these factors undergo some kind of change, in this way, the individual is negatively affected. Low self-esteem is considered a condition that is directly related to depression .

Classification of the types of self-esteem

Self-esteem is a fragile balance between self-acceptance and the opinion of other people. Self-esteem is a key factor that allows you to maintain a stable relationship with others. People are capable of admitting the amount of respect or affection according to what they consider deserving .

Taking into consideration that self-esteem is built from the paternal relationship, the approval of the closest family and friends will allow to create a healthier self-esteem. Two types of self-esteem are identified: high or positive and low with negative.

High self-steem

High self-esteem is characterized by having certain personality traits that are considered positive.

  • The first of them is self-confidence , this is recognized as the acceptance of a person about himself.
  • Part of identifying aspects that may not be positive.
  • Weaknesses and virtues are equally accepted .

Acceptance as it is does not imply that the person avoids surpassing himself. On the other hand, from this position she is willing to try to overcome bad habits, fears and improve any aspect of her personality; that allows you to achieve whatever goal you set for yourself.

  • Self-assessment is suitable enough to allow relationships with other people establishing a relationship of equality and respect .
  • People with high self-esteem are passionate and capable of enjoying any activity.
  • They experience negative emotions and situations, highlighting their ability to put themselves ahead and move on.

Low selfsteem

It is characterized by showing a series of behaviors that show a negative assessment:

  • The main characteristic is self-criticism which is constant.
  • It is identified by a constant state of dissatisfaction , for which the person cannot assume any decision or action without distrusting himself.
  • Show hypersensitivity
  • They do not easily tolerate criticism from other people even if they are intended to help.
  • They always question whether the people who are part of their social circle have a positive opinion, which is why social relationships are seriously affected.

Consequently, people with low self-esteem maintain a constant need to please others . They believe that their approval could give them some kind of satisfaction, and these opinions are also more relevant.

The perfectionism that they demand of themselves sometimes causes them to feel frustrated by not representing the ideal they want to achieve.

They experience feelings of guilt for not forgiving themselves for the mistakes they have made. Likewise, they begin to show a defensive attitude, they are constantly ready to attack.

How can you maintain good self-esteem? 

Psychologists usually recommend that people who maintain unbalanced self-esteem should avoid taking certain actions.

  • Comparison with other people we consider equal. Usually as a result it is concluded that they do not have the same virtues or qualities. This act prevents people from making an analysis of themselves while maintaining an objective position .
  • Maintain a realistic attitude regarding the goals we have set for ourselves. The feasibility that they can be carried out, as well as considering the resources that are available, are factors that people sometimes do not consider.
  • Goals that are achievable within a possible time frame are actions that benefit mental health.
  • Make up with past mistakes and learn from them . People who cannot overcome certain situations sometimes affect their future situation. Actions in the past do not define a person in the present.

To improve self-esteem it is also necessary to defend your own . Establishing what our goals are implies being sincere with what we really want and desire. People must be able not to resign, avoid being contradicted and also do not need the approval of others to continue.

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Alexa Clark specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has experience in listening and welcoming in Individual Therapy and Couples Therapy. It meets demands such as generalized anxiety, professional, love and family conflicts, stress, depression, sexual dysfunction, grief, and adolescents from 15 years of age. Over the years, She felt the need to conduct the psychotherapy sessions with subtlety since She understands that the psychologist acts as a facilitator of self-understanding and self-acceptance, valuing each person's respect, uniqueness, and acceptance.

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