Everyday life problems

Human confluence in contemporary societies has created new controversies and extinguished old beliefs. 

In these times, city life, with large crowds of people , the frenetic rhythms of the metropolis, the professional skills increasingly specialized in the technologies of the digital age, have been creating new ruptures and accentuating old problems in the psycho- Social. People are absorbed in work in an interconnected world.

It seems that the subjects have little time to deal with their self-knowledge, with their more specific subjective aspects, in order to define their life priorities. Life seems to have been atomized in the big cities.

This list of concepts addresses twenty-five topics that are related to this psychological dimension in a virtually interconnected world , through the Internet.

The problems developed here do not have a strict common thread; but, they can be correlated by the complexity of the human psyche and the innumerable aspects that define personality , well-being and social behavior.

1. Anxiety

Anxiety is an emotion that people experience when they feel threatened by something that can subjectively harm them.

The danger may come from the environment or from your own subjectivity . Anxiety has a physiological response at the level of the vegetative system (for example, intestinal spasms), a psychological response with cognitive or behavioral changes (both inclusive) and the triggering stimulus is diffuse, while the danger is subjective and sometimes does not exist.

In anxiety the subjective factor is important; But, this does not mean that it ceases to manifest itself with states of tension, discomfort, displeasure and alarm.

2. Lack of money

And with regard to money, it can be a conditioning factor that leads to anxiety , since the fear that produces not being able to cover the costs of food, for example, could affect the emotional balance of an individual

However, money, although it is an element that intervenes in the achievement of a dignified life , is by no means a determining factor. Wealth creation in its broad sense goes hand in hand with positive thinking and the recognition of personal skills .

In a free market economy, where the value of skilled work and the income it generates are respected, the lack of money is precisely due to low skills.

The vocational and technical training and self-recognition of the particular skills is the key to the flow of money into the economy anyone. The money that is earned in a country with the rule of law then depends on professional skills and not on luck and magical beliefs.

3. Confront bullying

The “bullying” is an English word that defines bullying . Said harassment manifests itself as verbal, physical and psychological abuse of a subject. Abuse can manifest itself in various ways, or only on a verbal level (the psychological is taken for granted). In general, the prototype abuser seeks to continually intimidate or undermine the self-esteem of his victim.

The specialists recommend three fundamental actions to attack bullying: having detected the physical and behavioral signs of the victim , it is essential to gather all the necessary information regarding the affected person’s school life and speak with the educational authorities.

Seek the advice of a professional psychologist. Strengthen the bond with the affected person so that they can express themselves freely and express their feelings. The reinforcement of self-esteem is also important in the child.

This is accomplished by giving you the opportunity to do extra academic , arts, and sports activities. To all of the above, work with witnesses to bullying is added. Witnesses must be made aware of how to protect the victims and serve as a vehicle for containment and not as accomplices.

4. Resilience

The resilience is an essential functional quality for emotional and physical health of people. It implies resisting the onslaught of life. It is the human capacity to recover from traumatic situations . The term was adopted by the social sciences from the field of physics and civil engineering. Due to its characteristics, it has been seen as resistance to stress and adversity, just as a material has the ability to regain its original shape, after receiving great pressure.

The resilient are people with the capacity to get ahead despite obstacles, such as the death of a loved one, an unexpected job dismissal, long periods of abuse, divorce with a partner, etc.

Resilient people are capable of learning from negative experiences, they know how to bear the burdens of life because they have a deep inner life and strong emotional intelligence. The resilient subject adapts to change and maintains a purposeful relationship with his environment when necessary. This allows you to look to the future, plan your objectives and goals, and work in the present.

5. Not receiving trust

Human beings tend to believe in others . Distrust comes precisely when trust is betrayed.

In the field of sociology and social psychology , trust is the belief that an individual or group will be competent and will function efficiently in a given context. Confidence is gained as you act consistently, based on the expectations placed on that person.

The notion of mistrust defines the loss of trust. But mistrust or its opposite is also a subjective belief (the subject does or does not trust himself).

For various reasons, people lose confidence in themselves, they lose the security that their intellectual, emotional or physical capacities are sufficient to deal with a situation X. Trust or distrust is not only placed in people, but also in situations and things.

That said, distrust entails the assumption of a cautious attitude regarding an action or fact. It is recurrent that mistrust is based on past or present experiences , which generates a predisposition to reasonable doubt.

People’s behaviors do not necessarily respond to values , so they are subjected to social scrutiny. Even people trust or not in phenomena that do not depend on human action , but on nature.

There are many examples in this field. In the context of interpersonal relationships, the degree of trust or mistrust determines the breakdown or not of any possibility of coexistence and respectful treatment.

6. Treason

The betrayal implies the conduct of the disloyal person , an action contrary to the word promised.

The trust is broken by who betrays . The commitment acquired in any situation or circumstance is set aside. Betrayal denotes negative conduct from an ethical and moral perspective and leads to loss of trust in the other; the relationship that was maintained with the person or entity is not respected.

Betrayal is always detrimental to the victim , since it entails emotional, physical, economic or labor suffering.

The traitor in general may act deliberately or not, but there will always be harm of some kind. Betrayals are common in the workplace, where there is a lot of competition.

Likewise, betrayal manifests itself in marital relationships , in the form of infidelity. Marriage betrayal or disloyalty in love is one of the most common betrayals.

Treason, even, is classified as a crime , when it is against the fatherland. Treason occurs when one or more citizens take up arms against the state and its leaders, or when secret information affecting a nation is exposed to public light.

7. Low self-esteem

Self- esteem is the perception you have of yourself . Likewise, it is understood as the ability of a person to value himself.

In its normal state, self-esteem is beneficial for the good performance of people. Self-esteem is linked to behavior, as it determines how people handle their emotions.

Optimal self-esteem positively influences the emotional health of individuals. On the contrary, low self-esteem leads to aggressive and negative emotions , even depressive situations.

In the field of psychology, it is understood that the best stage for the development of self-esteem is in middle childhood. That is, when the child is able to compare his real self with his ideal self and, from there, perceive himself on the basis of social models and what he expects of himself. 

In fact, the recognition that children make of themselves is fundamental for the conformation of the personality. The study of self-esteem from psychology is extremely important to understand the aspects of personality . Developing good behavior patterns leads to high self-esteem.

In people’s lives, the importance that each assigns in the family and social fabric counts a lot. The consciousness of worth resides in the thoughts, emotions and experiences that accumulate during life and their redundancy in the social group.

The positive self-concept that people maintain, based on professional and emotional achievements, and assertive behaviors, is an essential part of mental health.

Individuals with low self-esteem feel hesitant about making decisions, as they fear being wrong. They feel incapable, in most situations, to succeed in the challenges that are proposed.

In general, they are very cautious subjects, because they are afraid of being wrong. Low self-esteem is typical of anxious and nervous people , so they avoid facing stressful or distressing situations.

8. Lack of decision

Lack of decision is generally flawed behavior in the social context . Rather, decision-making involves choosing between various options or ways to resolve various life situations. Decision-making is important in family, work, or emotional contexts, in order to solve a current or potential problem.

Indecisive people lack the ability to definitively choose between several options, which causes them tension until they make a decision or simply prefer not to. The state of well-being depends on the decisions that are made or not throughout life.

9. Stress

Stress is physiologically manifested by nervous tensions originating in the work or personal environment. It usually occurs as a reaction to overwork, prolonged anxiety states, or traumatic circumstances.

Normal stress is one that commonly manifests itself through physiological reactions that help to deal with and overcome complicated situations.

However, pathological stress occurs when it is prolonged in time, affecting the health of the person . It involves the loss of control of emotions, depression and physiological alterations in general.

10. Lack of appetite

Lack of appetite is related to poor health , because an organism without sufficient nutrients becomes ill.

Now, the causes of poor appetite are very varied. Regularly, if there is no emotional basis (for example, the trauma that could cause divorce), anorexia nervosa , a depressive or anxiety component, the loss of appetite can be caused by an infectious disease, by autoimmune diseases or of the digestive system, among others.

Certain medicated drugs for endemic conditions may affect the desire to eat. In addition, people with addiction to drugs, alcohol, often suffer from poor appetite.

The eating disorders excess occupations or relaxation times to eat, also results in the loss of appetite.

Due to its multifactorial causes , the only way to face the lack of appetite is to go to a specialist doctor and follow their recommendations.

11. Excess of appetite

Excess appetite is described as a symptom of some pathology or drug reaction, and consists of an excessive desire to take food. The causes are diverse, but it has psychological or physiological origins.

Depending on the nature of the excess appetite, it can be temporary, sporadic or chronic. For example, treatment with corticosteroids or antidepressants can cause a temporary, excessive increase in appetite. Anxiety is one of the most common causes.

However, it is a symptom of diseases such as “Graves”, diabetes mellitus, hyperthyroidism, hypoglycemia or bulimia. Excess appetite is not necessarily associated with weight gain, although it is possible that this occurs, especially when it is due to endocrine gland disorders.

The most advisable thing is to go to a specialist doctor and follow his recommendations.

12. Demotivation

Demotivation is the opposite of motivation . It delimits the emotional state of a person who lacks external or internal stimuli to carry out an action . Unmotivated individuals lack incentives to make decisions and act. Demotivation is caused by various factors and has a justified basis in many cases.

Motivated living is the ideal, because it encourages individuals to achieve their objectives and goals. When the motive also loses interest and the desire to make an effort. Demotivation is typical of the work, school and social field.

External factors play an important role. For example, if an employee strives for a long period of time to exceed his objectives , but does not get the slightest recognition, he loses motivation.

13. Aggressive environments

Human aggressiveness is a problem that defines psychology and is a matter of concern on the part of students of the mind, particularly seeking to understand the nature of aggressiveness.

The psychology understands that aggressive behavior is the typical response of individuals who do not control their emotions . It is a common behavior of people who grew up in an aggressive and violent environment, although in childhood it can have a physiological origin.

However, aggressive environments are also related to the lack of the rule of law, which, although it is enshrined in most of the magnitudes of the nations, is a dead letter in many of them.

The feeling of insecurity , the lack of decent recreational spaces, in accordance with human needs, create environments conducive to crime and various forms of violence.

The legal impunity engenders aggressive environments, aggressive responses as the only way to solve interpersonal and intergroup differences.

The dysfunctional families , whose children live without rules, are generating aggressive adults.

14. Lack of empathy

The empathy is one of the most important human values, to the side of goodness. It is the faculty of the subject to place himself in “the shoe of the other”, to understand his point of view and identify with the pain of others. For this reason, empathy is a cognitive ability.

Consequently, people with little or no empathy downplay the mistakes they make , but harshly criticize others when they make mistakes .

People who lack empathy are often selfish, arrogant, inopportune and little considerate of their opinions , they never understand or misrepresent someone else’s point of view, they do not enjoy healthy and long-lasting and prejudiced relationships.

15. Laziness

Laziness should not be confused with tiredness. A tired person regularly rests and recovers his energy to continue working on what he likes.

Instead, laziness is a dislocation of human behavior, expressed in those people who feel a particular attachment to the easy life without responsibilities.

The lazy person is lazy to act, does not strain, and shows no interest in important everyday tasks. Laziness itself is the lack of will to change the moment into action.

But inaction is not a defining trait of laziness : the child who prefers to play all day rather than spend time on homework is lazy. The same is true for adults who, rather than dedicate themselves to fulfilling the work entrusted, prefer to play on the computer.

16. Define objectives

The definition of goals in the life of any individual is essential to achieve work, emotional and intellectual success. To define objectives you must have a vision and a goal.

In life, there are as many goals as there are stages. The objectives that a subject draws in school are focused on the goal of graduating . Later, the objectives will probably derive in the interest of practicing a profession and starting a family, with a wife and children.

In any case, although life does not always pass in a linear way and without conflicts of various kinds (affective, work, school, existential, etc.), the mental exercise of organizing more or less goals for each stage of life , serves to optimize results and prioritize interests. Know what is most important and, in that order, establish life goals.

17. Listen to others

Knowing how to listen to others is not the same as hearing them . Listening implies complicit attention with the interlocutor. This is what is called “active listening”. Basically, the active listener is in charge of understanding and taking care of communication . Knowing how to listen is closely linked with empathy, with knowing how to get involved with the emotions of your interlocutor.

When a person does not pay attention to what his interlocutor says, he will hardly be able to understand it. In these times, humanity has many forms of communication (chats, e-mails, social networks, etc.); but, for this reason, there is no more dialogue and understanding of the opinion of others.

People do not know how to listen, they are more aware of their own opinion than that of their peers. Communication by concept involves the two-way flow of information.

18. Attention Deficit

The disorder of attention deficit (ADHD) is one of the most conditions treated in child psychiatry. When hyperactivity (AD / HD) is added, the essential characteristics of its diagnosis in children are:

1. problems with maintaining attention
2. the manifest impulsiveness
3. hyperactivity.

In addition, these behaviors have to manifest before even seven years of age and in a greater dimension than is expected of the child’s mental age.

The attention deficit in children can condemn them to poor school performance , compared to what is expected for their level of intelligence.

Due to their hyperactivity, they are at greater risk of experiencing accidents during daily recreational activities and of suffering rejection from their human environment, which leads to greater behavioral problems.

Children affected with this condition have normal , low or high intelligence levels, just like any other child without ADD.

19. Hyperactivity

Hyperactivity in children affects family life and that of their environment, but it also destroys children’s happiness.

Therefore, the importance of a proper diagnosis and timely treatment. Children’s hyperactivity makes them the center of attacks from their peers, generating a climate contrary to their good mental health.

The bullying becomes an obstacle more for social integration and group in the school environment.

20. Mood swings

Mood swings are totally normal when a positive or optimistic temperament dominates. It is normal for you to sporadically go through pressing situations that influence your mood.

In cases when low self-esteem and an irritable emotional state prevail and mark the personality, it is appropriate to consult a specialist. A mentally healthy person follows a daily routine, is productive, has short, medium and long term plans. In addition, he knows that any problem will be temporary, he does not immerse himself in problems, but sees possible solutions, acting accordingly.

The anxiety disorders affect mood. And depression, which must be treated by a specialist, is an extreme state of mental health, which includes mood disorders.

21. Time management

The time is an ungraspable well that is not recovered . Currently considered one of the most important resources, it is a challenge to learn to use it in the most efficient way. It is essential to undertake the following points:

1. Identify goals, objectives and preferences
2. Determine work hours and adjust time schedules
3. Choose the most suitable tactics to achieve the goals , objectives and preferences
4. Obtain sufficient skills in time scheduling that are useful in both academic and professional life

Time management is tied to other matters. In addition, it is a way to cope with everyday situations.

22. Family relationships

Family relationships shape the way in which members of a family communicate. And it is through these relationships that love, feelings, concerns are manifested , that when well managed they create stronger and stronger ties. 

The well-conceived family through strong relationships gains emotional, social, and economic stability , among other values.

Well-managed family relationships allow the development of hierarchical obligations, responsibilities and duties. 

Families that achieve cohesion through assertive communication, overcome the various stages of life together: happy and productive, traumatic and moving.

23. Expectations

Expectations are the situations that are expected to happen in the immediate or more distant future . The optimistic person always expects good news. It is based on hope, on the desire to achieve something very valuable and important, not necessarily material.

If expectations are unattainable , unreasonable, you run the risk of disappointment. But expectations do not always have to be good: for example, “the world’s economic expectations are not good because of the pandemic.”

24. Role changes

The role changes are today natural manifestations of society . The family does not respond to the classic criterion of father, mother and children, but has opened up to other alternative forms, where the only thing that matters is the consummation of common interests (affective, economic, family, etc.).

The roles are exchanged increasingly free. The single parent (single parent with children), composite (the union of previously single parent) or homoparental (union of homosexual couples) family models have been absorbed and assimilated. There are even unions without civil ties, where the only important thing is affection and freedom of commitment.

Mothers can be grandmothers, fathers can be grandfathers, mothers are fathers too, and fathers are mothers . People come together based on lifestyles, beliefs and interests, and stages of life.

25. Finding out a lie

The lie is a hoax . The word has undoubtedly lost importance, people believe that lying is sometimes necessary to protect their interests. However, depending on the context and dimension of the lie, it can do a lot of harm to the deceived person.

Confronting a person who has lied to you is a situation, most of the time, at least, uncomfortable. It is essential to control your emotions while talking to the person who you know has lied to you.

And even if the person in question accepts that he has lied to you and apologizes, remember that the human condition of an adult was structured over many years and will not change from one day to the next (or because you want to believe it). Thus, surely, he will lie to you again.