Social Phobia: Fear of social situations

Social Phobia Fear of social situations

The individual may feel an intense, persistent, and chronic fear of being watched and judged by others, and of doing things that make them feel ashamed.


The  social anxiety disorder  ( TAS ) is also known as social phobia , this is an irrational fear that some people face social situations, the interact with others or just being observed in any situation.



Flushing, shaking of the hands, feet, legs, or voice; feelings of heat or sweating; body sweat, especially in the hands ( hyperhidrosis ), feelings of panic that cause intense fear; muscle tension, breathing difficulties; dry mouth; difficulties in concentration; chest pain or tightness; palpitations; gastrointestinal discomfort; shaking chills; feeling of fatigue; dizziness


The fear that the person has along with the idea that they will block, stutter, cough, or not know very well what to say, etc.

The fear of negative evaluation, the person thinks that he will be judged, observed or criticized by others so he will avoid the dreaded social situations or performances in public or he will feel intense anxiety or discomfort.

You may also believe that you are seen as anxious, weak, clumsy, or stupid; has negative thoughts, such as: “I’m going to make a fool of myself”, “I won’t know what to say.”

You will feel a sense of unreality, of being separated from people and a feeling that everyone is looking at you.

You may have an extreme fear of meeting new people and a low self-esteem.

You will feel intense Anxiety or extreme fear in front of a group of people and the fear of manifesting anxiety symptoms will surface.


The sensations are nothing more than the response of our subconscious mind to a certain stimulus, your mind has learned to respond in a certain way to a certain stimulus. It’s like Pavlov’s dog.

Pavlov was a Russian physiologist whoconducted some experimentsat the beginning of the 20th century , they were really very simple experiments.

These consisted of feeding a dog by sounding a triangle, each time the triangle sounded food was administered to the dog.

When the dog learned that every time the triangle sounded, food was given to him, he did not even need food for the dog to start salivating.

His mind associated sound with food and every time the triangle sounded the dog salivated.

In the same way stimulus-response work in the human mind. Our subconscious has learned to react in a certain way to certain stimuli.

You can even create responses without external stimuli but a simple thought can trigger the response.

An enlightening experiment

Life constantly offers us examples such as the following laboratory experience, which shows how abilities can be diminished by fear and how, when an idea has dominated us, we can become its slaves.

We put on the ground a plank one meter wide by twenty long and we ask it to pass from end to end. Do it easily.

Now they blindfolded him, we took him to another place, we put you in front of an identical plank and asked him to pass by guiding him with his fingertips along a taut rope. He also does it perfectly, but, when you remove the blindfold, he discovers with horror that he has just crossed the void at the height of the towers of a cathedral.

We ask you to repeat the same path, but you refuse, because you would no longer be able to take three steps without crashing to the ground.

The first time blindfolded we did not believe we were taking any risks and you were in possession of all the faculties. On the other hand, when he discovers the situation, the idea of ​​being able to fall paralyzes you and would inevitably drag him into the void.


If the thought of hanging out with friends after work scares or paralyzes you when someone in your class says “Hi, these are signs that you might have an anxiety disorder or social phobia.

But having an anxiety disorder or social phobia is not just being shy, although it may seem like you.

If you know that your opinion or your intervention is expected in a meeting or that you will meet a coworker or classmate to carry out a project at home and that makes you start to sweat and your heart seems to be out of control chest.

It is very possible that you suffer from this problem.

It is even possible that you get physically ill, stomachaches, or headaches.

In order to avoid the situation, you may even come up with an excuse to postpone the situation you want to avoid.

People can feel some anxiety, for example, before speaking in front of a class or group, but social phobia disorder is much more intense.
Many people with this fear have difficulty even leaving the house for fear of social interaction.


I do not know if you have ever dreamed that you were naked or naked in the middle of a busy street or where there are many people, it is a very embarrassing situation, right ?

Well, with people who suffer from social phobia, every social situation is like that.

The person believes that everyone looks at her that she is the center of attention of everything that happens and that they are always judging her, as if you were naked in the middle of the street.

They believe that everyone is aware of their movements, what they say and even what they think.

It is not that someone with this condition wants to be alone. They don’t want to be hermits.

On the contrary, they are simply terrified of social interactions .


Some researchers think that not knowing how to interpret the behavior of others can play a decisive role in generating  social phobia , which is why people who suffer from it usually avoid situations in which they can be judged by others.

This behavior can begin in adolescence and possibly originate with overprotective parents.

Another possible cause of social phobia can be the lack of social skills , in this case the person may feel discouraged after talking to others by not getting the attention of the interlocutor.

Both men and women are equally affected by this phobia  disorder .

People with social phobia  are at high risk of using alcohol or other drugs. The reason is that they can come to rely on these substances to relax in social situations that are adverse or uncomfortable.


Generally, the social phobia is treated with psychotherapy, medication or a combination of both.

Psychotherapy or cognitive behavioral therapy ( CBT ) consists of training the person with social phobia to think differently, behaving and reacting to different situations so that they feel less anxiety and fear.

It also serves to help learn and practice how to function socially. In this way the person can control those feared situations that cause anxiety.

The treatment makes the anxiety decrease little by little in the patient, reaching a level capable of controlling it by himself.

Doctors can also prescribe medications that help treat social phobia . The most commonly prescribed medications are anxiolytics and antidepressants .

The anxiolytic are strong medicines used to treat anxiety. There are different types, many of which start to work right away, preventing your symptoms and making them less severe. However, they should not be taken for long periods of time.

There are also techniques and strategies used in group encounters of people who suffer from social phobia , these people meet others who have similar situations and feelings and can talk about their own problem in public, without feeling ashamed since they know that they are not the only ones .

These techniques used in these encounters are behavioral in nature and may include relaxation techniques , clinical cognitive hypnosis, or systematic desensitization .

They are carried out by psychologists or psychotherapists specialized in this type of therapy, and who previously had conversations, interviews and carried out individual work with each participant of the group.

The best treatment for social anxiety disorder and social phobia, like most anxiety disorders, is behavioral therapy.

It is to help the person to see how irrational their views on social situations are. They are a good therapy that can help the patient learn to deal with their social anxiety and interact more with people.

There are also a number of medications that are marketed specifically for people with social anxiety disorder.

These drugs have been shown to be effective, but they do have some unpleasant side effects in some patients. 

For this reason, drugs should only be used when recommended by a doctor.

Whichever method you choose, don’t delay. A whole world awaits you once you have overcome social phobia.

The social phobia can paralyze you . A disorder that has a solution

Psychological studies have shown that people are more afraid of speaking in public than of dying.

For people suffering from social anxiety disorder or social phobia, this is no joke. 

For them, any social situation is like torture to which they have to submit, and above all without being noticed.


To overcome the phobia of people  we must go to feared situations, but we have to be prepared, knowing what to do, and trained to prevent anxiety from appearing.

For it; it is necessary to make sure that you have the necessary social skills :

  • Start and hold conversations.
  • Public speaking.
  • Expression of liking, love and affection.
  • Defense of own rights.
  • Ask for favours.
  • Reject requests.
  • Make compliments.
  • Accept compliments.
  • Justified expression of annoyance, displeasure or anger.
  • Apologize or admit ignorance.
  • Request for changes in the behavior of others.
  • Coping with criticism.
Some psychological studies have shown that people fear public speaking more than death, which is why the social phobia and its treatment should have the importance it deserves and often requires a treatment  drug .

For people suffering from disorder social anxiety or phobia partner l , this is no joke.

For them, any social situation is like torture to which they have to submit, and above all without being noticed.

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Alexa Clark specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has experience in listening and welcoming in Individual Therapy and Couples Therapy. It meets demands such as generalized anxiety, professional, love and family conflicts, stress, depression, sexual dysfunction, grief, and adolescents from 15 years of age. Over the years, She felt the need to conduct the psychotherapy sessions with subtlety since She understands that the psychologist acts as a facilitator of self-understanding and self-acceptance, valuing each person's respect, uniqueness, and acceptance.

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