Felix is ​​walking down the street on his way home. Suddenly, he runs into his friend Antonio and when he goes to greet him, he realizes that Antonio continues his march without saying anything to him.

“But hey, what’s wrong? Why don’t you say hello? Will you be upset with me about something? As far as I can remember, I haven’t done anything to you, is it that people don’t like me?”
Felix feels confused, somewhat sad, he considers calling Antonio but does not dare in case he receives a bad answer from his friend.
As the day goes by, he becomes more and more tired, melancholic and decides not to do anything that night because he thinks he is not good company.

Sometimes we come across situations that generate in us certain thoughts , an interpretation. This way of explaining what happens to us is going to be what provokes our feelings and our behavior .

In this example we see how Felix thinks that the reason his friend does not greet him is that he does not like him and, consequently, he feels sad and decides to stay home alone instead of going out to have fun.

Thoughts can play tricks on us . If we are not objective and rational when interpreting a situation, we can end up feeling worse than is really necessary and acting in an incorrect or harmful way for us.

Who knows if Antonio has not seen Felix? Maybe he “doesn’t see three on a donkey” and he wasn’t wearing the glasses. What if Antonio was in a hurry and the same burden made him not say hello? They may be embarrassing and have a hard time being sociable. What if you had an important discussion just before meeting Felix and you preferred to “walk past” as a result of anger?

To know if we are interpreting a situation well, we can play at being a bit scientific and look for details that support or contradict our explanation .

Felix would have to look for data for and against his hypothesis “Antonio likes me”, such as:

  • Antonio calls me often to meet.
  • Have you ever told me that you value our friendship?
  • It is the first time that he has not greeted me on the street …

Being objective in our way of seeing the world will help us adjust our thoughts to reality and take away distorted interpretations . In this way, our emotions will always be within adequate margins and will allow us to react and behave correctly.

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Alexa Clark specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has experience in listening and welcoming in Individual Therapy and Couples Therapy. It meets demands such as generalized anxiety, professional, love and family conflicts, stress, depression, sexual dysfunction, grief, and adolescents from 15 years of age. Over the years, She felt the need to conduct the psychotherapy sessions with subtlety since She understands that the psychologist acts as a facilitator of self-understanding and self-acceptance, valuing each person's respect, uniqueness, and acceptance.

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