As people who live in society we need to communicate daily with other people : friends, family, co-workers, our partner, the supermarket clerk,… regardless of whether we like social relationships more or less.
Learning to make yourself understood and interact correctly with others is very important, which is why many people wonder: how to communicate better with other people?
TIPS FOR BETTER COMMUNICATING AND CONNECTING WITH OTHER PEOPLE
Next we are going to see 5 tips with which to learn to communicate better with others and make this improve your social relationships:
1.- Adapt your language : it is very important that you know how to adapt your language to the training and educational level of the person you are speaking with and to the context where the conversation takes place. If you are in the pharmaceutical industry, you should avoid very technical jargon so that you can understand what a certain component or drug is for (unless the other person asks you about it). In the same way, it is not advisable that within the workplace you express yourself as if you were with your lifelong friends since it can distort your professional image.
2.- Look into the eyes: something so basic and simple can sometimes be complicated. If you do not look directly into the eyes when you speak or avoid the look, it can give the feeling that you would like to be somewhere else or that the conversation ends as soon as possible, even that avoidance can be interpreted as hiding something. In the same way, looking very fixedly without looking away can make the other person uncomfortable or intimidate. So the ideal is to find a balance that allows you to forget about it and do it with some spontaneity.
3.- Do not judge ahead of time : sometimes, when trying to generate a conversation, people say things without really thinking about them. These expressions, both positive and mainly negative, can give us a wrong idea of what a person really is like. Give yourself a little more time to continue the conversation and ask some questions so you can get to know the other person better.
4.- Make people feel comfortable talking to you : sometimes, we can meet people, who for whatever reason, get nervous when talking to us. If you detect these types of signals, it is best to seek some complicity by making a joke, adapting our oral and gestural language or showing that you care about the person and what they tell you.
5.- Practice active listening : looking into the eyes, nodding or adding small comments or related questions is what is known as active listening. Although during the conversation we have to remain silent, it is very important to give signals that you are paying attention and do not have a passive attitude with the subject, this shows symptoms of interest in what they tell you.
If after putting these tips into practice, your communication with other people does not improve or even if you think that you cannot put them into practice, it is best to find a Psychologist to help you develop your social skills .
Alexa Clark specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has experience in listening and welcoming in Individual Therapy and Couples Therapy. It meets demands such as generalized anxiety, professional, love and family conflicts, stress, depression, sexual dysfunction, grief, and adolescents from 15 years of age. Over the years, She felt the need to conduct the psychotherapy sessions with subtlety since She understands that the psychologist acts as a facilitator of self-understanding and self-acceptance, valuing each person's respect, uniqueness, and acceptance.